I found my wheels! I think.
 

These are Vmr v710 19 x 10 +25 all around. I love this wheel and the cost but fear it may be too aggressive for a daily driver family car. The only other options in this wheel are 8.5 +35. Not even close to flush without spacers. And a 9.5 +22. I want the flush look and to be as functional as possible. I am dropped on Tien Street Basis coilovers. Advise me! ;) tired of sittin on stock!

19x10 ET25 on a sedan will be ridiculous poke from what I can tell.
I have 20x9 et35 and they are flush. I'd go with the 8.5 ET35 personally. You can still get a nice size tire and get close to flush and functional. You can always squeeze the last bit of fitment out with a good spacer.

That is what I was thinking too. Thanks!

Might look at TSW Nurburgring too, similar look w/ better sedan offsets so you can run the wider wheels, have them in a 19x9.5 +41 offset, and you can run 255/40/19s all around for a nice fit at the fender
https://www.elementwheels.com/wheels/tsw-wheels/nurburgring-matte-bronze-rotary-forged/tsw-1995nur-b

Or even consider the Avant Garde M610!

Pricing for these also include any single stage powder coat.

Pulled the trigger on the VMR v710 19 x 8.5 +35 squared. :) can always throw a spacer on here and there if needed. Thanks for advice everyone!